Child Support: Is this the new Golddigging?

How in the hell should a man have to pay a woman $30,000 a month in child support?

This question has been racing through my mind for the past few days, courtesy of a local radio show where the host was blasting all men, saying men don't take responsibility for their kids and refuse to pay child support.

Granted, I know that some boys in men's bodies are in the world who don't handle their business, but I know a bigger number of men that pay child support, all while going through the bullsh-t headaches from the baby's momma aka I want to keep you down for my own selfish reasons.

TRUE STORY: (Names have been changed to protect the innocent, along with the trifling.)

*Chris works for a nuclear plant, making a bit under 100 grand a year before overtime, meaning with OT he clears well over 100 k a year. *Gina, a nurse, former dancer, retired whore, and now lesbian took him to child support court for increases everytime he told her they wouldn't be getting back together, everytime he bought a new car, or looked as if his life was going too well without her. She skipped the fact that the man takes care of his daughter like his life depends on it. I have a problem with that. Now she pays a portion of her mortgage and new car note with his child support and OPENLY brags about it, almost to the point of ridicule. What's wrong with this picture? I don't think it's EVER alright for a man to have to pay exorbent amounts of child support, because 9 times out of 10, that money is going to luxury pocketbooks, stilletos, the hair salon, spa pedicures and facials, and a bunch of other things the woman who trapped, I mean had the child would NOT be doing on her own. Take for instance, the video chick who slithers her way into a nightclub near you and posts in the VIP searching for the "balla" that is going to take her from a life of $50 a video shoot checks to a condo, Benz, and all the REAL pocketbooks her heart desires....aka the come up. Look at the money that Puffy and some of these other celebrities are paying women who weren't living the lifestyles they now flaunt PRIOR to those child support checks falling. F-CK THAT!!!! Now this doesn't apply to the women who can handle their own, but too many are using child support as a come up and it's wrong. Fellas, step it up though, as a man your child shouldn't want for a thing on your dime. The courts shouldn't have to make that happen. For the MEN who are getting railroaded by a vindictive female, keep being a father to yours. For the BOYS who caused this epidemic, jump off a bridge. I'm not anti-child support, I'm anti using child support as a personal come up or as a pawn to bring a man down because he doesn't want you. Peace!!!

Question of the Day: Are you pleasing your Lady?

Fellas: Behind closed doors, you MUST handle business.

I'm going to revisit a conversation I had a few moments ago. Names will be changed to protect the foolish and incompentent.

Nasir: Hello?

*Rob: Man, I need to holla at you...NOW! Can you talk, matter of fact, f-ck all that listen at this.

Nasir:(after shaking my head) What's going on champ?

*Rob: She faked a orgasm on me. This bitch must be f-cking someone else, cause I know damn well when my baby comes. If I find out... I mean...(exaggerated pause) it was like all the usual stuff went down, but she was just doing all this extra sh-t and it seemed fake.

Nasir: *Rob, relax for a minute, why would she do that?

*Rob: She always complains about the fact that I don't take my time with her, but it's like when we f-cking it's all good. FLAG ON THE PLAY!!! TIME OUT!!! This was the point when I realized *Rob was messing up the church's money with his lady.

Nasir: Damn homie, did you ever take the time to make sure she was good? Extend the foreplay, give her a twirly aka cunnilingus, sensual massage, mind sex, anything?

*Rob: Nah, I mean...(silly ass pointless pause)I don't be eating no pussy in the first damn place.FOUL#1Ya kna mean Nasir? That sh-t is for lames. (at this point I listen to meaningless ramble)This was my response to all of the madness and this also goes out to the fellas who are being selfish behind closed doors.

With a woman, especially YOUR woman, you have to pay attention. Learn what she likes and doesn't like. Take the time to pay attention to everything, from her breathing to her NATURAL responses to your touch. ASK her what she desires and do your best to accomodate her. You never want to be the guy talked about NEGATIVELY in the hair salon, book club meeting, women's waiting to exhale sessions over ice cream and Girlfriends re-runs, or any other venue where a woman will see your silly ass and say: "Girl, look at *Rob's lame ass. I tried to give this (insert hurtful word here) some of this good good and his ass couldn't hang." This is the equivalent of being put on the Summerjam screen or on full blast in the wrong manner. Fellas, I'll say it again: HANDLE YOUR BUSINESS.Have her trembling with anticipation when you step in the room. Make her get wet from knowing you are on your way over. You should be putting work in to the point where when she logs on and sees your profile pic, her legs start shaking. If you are on the same page I'm on, that's the leg shake I'm speaking of. If not, step your game up. For every man that won't there are many that will. Next topic: The Morons in the Game who mess it Up for all the REAL MEN.

This is whats wrong with Women now . . . LOL

Fellas, fight back . . .

Controversy or Truth? Diary of a Tired Black Man

This one is going to cause a TON of controversy, arguments, and a few brothas will be sleeping on the couch for commenting wrong on this topic, but I had to go into it. Questions: Is the black woman too demanding? Does she not bring enough to the table, but want the world? Is her baggage too damn much? Does the influence of her no-man having, horrible weaved homegirls cause drama in your house? Are you tired of her finger-snapping, neck rolling attitude? If so, there is a movie coming out for you.



Don't get the game messed up, I have 2 sides on this topic and I will go into both of them. First and foremost, I LOVE BLACK WOMEN. Everything about the intrigues me and attracts me at the same time. I feel that black women have been abused, disrespected, and objectified over the years, so sistas, I feel your pain. On the other hand, too many sistas blame good brothas for their PAST baggage. Too many times "Kisha" you know her, the homegirl you have that can never keep a man, but always has something negative to say about yours is corrupting your mind with all of her man bashing. Sistas, sometimes its you. It isn't always us. There are a TON of eligible, good brothas who are searching for their Bonita Applebaum. Give us a chance. Don't let "Jody's" messed up actions blow it for the next man, because sistas, you are missing out.

About the black man/white woman situation. I believe that as blacks, people of African descent, or whatever you want to be classified as, we should have a grasp on who we are before intermingling. Period.

Check out this clip of "Diary of a Tired Black Man." Check in on this and give your thoughts.

Great Shirt.....

The truth....You can't handle the truth!!!!

Note to Women: Bring Something to the Table

Disclaimer: This post is NOT, I repeat NOT for the women who hold their own and don't look for handouts from a man. The lady who is willing to go to work for hers and not make a living on her back or on her knees. This post is for the following: Golddiggers, professional groupies, celebrity stalkers, chicks with no ambition of their own, and the ones who think what's between their legs is the key to success.

One of my fellow bloggers posted a great blog about men chasing women they can't afford. I don't believe in the theory and that is from personal experience. I consider myself to be a fashionable man, women tell me I'm attractive, and I have never had an issue meeting women, etc, etc, and I even have some of those great episodes in my resume. Needless to say, I wanted to address the flipside of the male/female situation.

Ladies, at times, seem to want a man who has the best credit, biggest house, and endless money, but I pose one question: What are you bringing to the table?

Is your credit in order, or is it maxed out on department store credit cards that you ran up to be in style?

Are you in a place of your own, or are you still at home with parents/friends/another man/too many roomates because you aren't responsible enough to be on your own?

How are your own finances? Do you have a bank account with more than a dream in it? Are you overdrawing the account every 3 days, robbing Peter to pay Paul and then robbing Peter the next day.

I ask these questions only because I get tired of the phenomenon of "A man better have this and that!!" What do you have?

True story: One night I was in my sportsbar in Northeast Philly and a group of females walked in. Each female was dressed to kill, Gucci this, Louie that and all of the guys were on their heels. *INSERT MEANINGLESS STUFF: bottle popping, dancing, people making it rain in the sportsbar, yadda yadda yadda, blah blah blah* At the end of the night, the same girls who were the Belles of the Ball were hopping into a taxi cab, arguing over who was going to pay the tab. And I quote: "Ya'll bitches make me sick! We ain't meet nobody who was gonna take us home tonight and I came out of the house with $5." Wait!! This is the same girl just in the sportsbar with Gucci from head to toe, talking only to the guys she assumed had money. More than likely, she has nothing to bring to the table. What's wrong with this picture? For some people nothing. For the people with a drop of logic, please continue reading.

My complaint is this: Stop wanting the world when you have nothing to offer.

It's not about chasing what you can't afford, women stop thinking the world should be handed over in a Marc Jacobs bag. If you bring nothing to the table, what makes you REALISTICALLY think that you deserve anything from it?